Young (Hov) @ Heart

Posh's latest revelation in dating, the Renaissance Sugar Daddy theorem we can call it, was initially troublesome. Well more specifically, the circumstances that led up to the conclusion were the troublesome part. Why would young, vibrant Posh want to be subject herself to potential stagnation with a beau who was born in a completely different era? Then I realized that each girlfriend I have is younger than the last.

So why the trend? In the black community, you could easily say that the men have the luxury of staying single longer and then having their pick whenever they choose. I guess you could say that across ethnicities since the good men are dwindling at a higher rate for everyone. But I think there's something else going on there too.

Girls are always more mature than boys. This is apparent to both sexes as early as pre-school. From the jungle gym, little princesses are honing their skills at batting eyelashes and making wistful glances; the boys just try to figure out where and when to hit her in the shoulder to express the same sentiment. And while we make gains, we never quite catch up. So though chronologically disparate, those eyebrow raising relationships might be on the perfect page. Plus the young ones are eye candy that not only please us but make our friends jealous. That never hurts the equation.

I think it all factors into how much a guy is willing to sacrifice. When a man finally gets tired of the club scene and wants to settle down, he starts to find someone who is on the same page. He initially might even turn to people his age, but they're usually bitter and have baggage that makes it even less appealing. But turn a little and there is a bevy of younger women, tired of dating around and looking for something substantial, but the boys their age have no interest in giving up their playboy ways. So sometimes the girl is 25 and the guy is 27, 26 and 33, 27 and 40, but they're going the same speed. Plus the girl offers the guy some sort of link to the idea that his youth and vitality is eternal. For the girl, she is just comforted by the fact that a man exists that knows what responsibility is. This also explains why these relationships work even when the guy isn't exactly Mr. Moneybags either.

The more I've thought about it, the less I worry about it. I really have more stock in making my current relationship work. Other than the fact that we seem to be at that all important same pace, the idea of getting any younger in my partners is scary. In future years, if I entertain the type of age gap Posh has no qualms about I could be dating someone who featured Soulja Boy prominently in their Sweet 16 playlist. I don't think I could handle the disconnect. I suspect the trend will only continue to grow. In addition to Posh, my sister is currently dating someone 11 years her senior. Plus it would just add onto the list of ways to emulate Jay-Z. First, entrepreneurship in diverse assets (Jigga does mad ish. I'ma do mad ish"). Second, beverage choices based on moral conscience ("Jigga stopped drinking Cris. I'ma stop drinking Cris"). Finally, Jay-Z has offered guidance on relationships ("Jigga got married to an independent woman more than 10 years his junior. That nigga must be onto something. He ain't made a bad move yet")

Those might be some of the most watched baby names ever.
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