Whatever I Like!

i just finished reading retha's post on "ms. independent" and others' comments on her post. i didn't comment cause i wasn't sure how i felt about her assessment of the song and what others had to say. what i do know is that t.i.'s song "you can have whatever you like" i right up my alley!

independence is great! the feminists movement was the greatest, but i firmly believe two things: 1)feminism is about having a choice and does not trump or negate being a women (in the "traditional" or natural sense of the word) and 2)women want to be just that! and it happens more often when men are men!

it's real simple, there is man and woman; ying and yang; hot and cold; up and down; east and west. i hope you get the point. there is a balance. you can't have one without the other. i say this because i find that now a days, as retha mentioned, too many folk are influenced by rap songs and video and honestly believe very simplistically, that a woman should pay for the first date and that she shouldn't need a man outside of her carnal needs. this is not the natural order of things. men have this inner sense and desire to be the protector and provider (God had something to do with this) and woman tend to be the nurturer and comforter. there is a balance. when things are out of wack, meaning when men no longer want to provide (know that providing is more than a paycheck) and acquiesce to relinquishing their "pants," it only makes sense that women assume their position resulting in songs like "ms. independent" or "i-n-d-e-p-e-n-d-e-n-t." some one has got to play the role of the man if he's acting like the women! quite honestly i think these songs are an affront to men: men that take care of business and act as leaders and priests of their homes. i betcha that usher never has his wife pay for dinners. it further amazes me that it's men who write these songs and perform them! indirectly men, you are "stripping" yourself of your manhood. don't get mad at women when we emasculate you all, you've already done it to yourself.

lauren hill said it best with "stop acting like boys and be men." you want to be treated like men? then start celebrating our differences; start celebrating the fact that you complement a women and have the capacity to bring out the best in her. start singing "Long as you got me you won't need nobody...baby you can have whatever you like." ;-)

posh