The dating trifecta

How does one know when they have found the ONE?

I just got news that one of the three dudes i've been obsessing about is now in a serious relationship, and he's ecstatic! (however, i think i may be more happy for him. you know me and my preoccupation with black love!) anyhow, i found out that they had thought about it before but "the plane never landed."

so what has changed between then and now, other than time? How is he so certain that this is the one that God has put aside for him? where does he gain this confidence to leap into the realm of a serious relationship that may potentially lead to a marriage? I present you the dating trifecta:

1. Providence
2. Counsel
3. Confirmation.

Providence:
"the foreseeing care and guidance of God or nature over the creatures of the earth" (dictionary.com). my friend i can only assumes attributes his reintroduction to an old grad school mate as Providence, as God's guidance. the years prior, they may not have been ready for each other. they both needed to grow, learn, live, maybe even gain a firmer relationship with God. Whatever the case, they were reunited and this time it has stuck!

Counsel:
they say that your friends and family members know you better than you know yourself. they are at a vantage point that allows them to see you in the one way that you cannot see yourself. with my friend's description of this girl, his explanation of their friendship, others opinions of her, and whatnot, they were able to assess that she was the one for him. Her looks, mannerisms, temperament, build, personality, character, familial background...it all matched up. Besides, your close friends and family only want what's best for you.

Confirmation:
this is the trickiest of them all. the thing about confirmation is that it comes in the form of the supernatural, the unexplainable. it requires the gift of discernment. it requires that you wholly submit your self to a high power and allow Him to lead and direct. but aren't our desires obstacles in this whole process? how are you so sure that you both put your desires aside and allow the Lord to guide? was it self fulfilling or providential? are just a few of the questions that need to be reconciled when dealing with the confirmation. i heard in church this past week that "if you delight in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart." of course i am not a theologian but one of the major components being a vessel and having the gift discernment to to ensure that you are aligned with the Lord and that He is your one true desire. preoccupy yourself with going about your Father's business and your Father will provide you with all your needs and the things of your heart...be it a car, job, health, patience, better relationship with your parents/siblings, or a significant other.


Three, the number of the Holy trinity...i guess it makes sense that the key to discernment is a three part endeavor. In all things His will should be done. A successful relationship beings with GOD at it's core.

Let this be a lesson for all who read this.

with love,

posh